He’s Dating the Transgender (Book)

After spreading the news through media from television, news paper and internet about winning the title and crowned Ms. Gay Manila 2015. Ms. Trixie Maristela is already visible nationwide all over the Philippines. She also won the title and crowned of the prestigious beauty pageant of a very well known noontime variety show Eat Bulaga in Super Sireyna wayback 2014.

I’m not a big fan of pageant but I was really amaze how transwoman being competitive in field of beauty and brain competition. I’ve never been in pageant or compete in my whole life living until I reach my twenties of age.

The reason why I can relate or involved myself in this nice subject is because I live as well as a transwoman. Means we are born as man but living as a woman with heart and soul. 

At this generation we are already visible in society but still we experience discrimination and limited acknowledgment living on our own way.

It’s a very long discussion if I tell you about a life or my life living a transwoman. But at the moment were about to talk this wonderful book I read written by Mr. Art with Ms. Trixie.

After Ms. Trixie Maristella having a lot of exposure in media she already had name in the industry especially being a figure or advocate for LGBT society specialize transwoman issue. I never knew her yet, instead just a casual title holder of those pageants she won.  She is truly had an elegant and classy look and beautiful face. Her aura is very far from the other transwoman. She is unique and very very finest.

After Manila Bulletin (Newspaper Media) tell her story from winning the pageant now it’s time for her Love Story. Then it was started to spread on the social media or internet and many followers and supporters read it, including myself.

How his long boyfriend named Art brave enough to spread and share the world his love for the special woman of his life Ms Trixie Maristela.

Many of the reader was actually support and adore their love to each other and some of them as well throw and express their thought against of this kind of relationship. And for me it’s very inspiring, eye and mind opening that there are truly few special love and relationship exist.

We might be inspires by love stories. But mostly are fictions, some are only in character or scripted. It’s fine but then compare in reality I guess it’s more sensible to appreciate that there are love stories giving us hope and let us dream and lead us to positivity and motivate to use our heart to love more through reality.

No one in this world love to be alone or even don’t want to love and be loved. When we getting older and getting matured we started to understand what exactly our heart beats for and wants. Especially in transwoman love stories.

Living in our own world being a transwoman is not easy, most of time it’s actually twice having hardship or struggle for us to fight the battle or challenge of our LIFE. But all we can do is face it and be brave as a combination of a strong man and intelligent woman with courage and hope.

Now! The book was release early June 2015 and it was started to market and advertise through social media and seen in selected bookstore. I started to feel the book is so controversial for me, it’s very interesting and I have my desire to read it.

Because I want to know more and learn from it, learn exactly what the book can share and tell.

At the late September the bookstores nearby in my hometown have a copy and display. Because I feel doubt to buy it compare for photography book I collected, I was just started to read only the synopsis printed at the back of book.  But still didn’t buy it.

Until the 2nd time around I just drop and visit the bookstore to find some photography book and just browse and read some few, I seen this book again on the display and it feels like it catches my attention. When I open up the middle part I saw some few lovely photos of this lovely couple Ms. Trixie and Mr. Art. But then I wasn’t bought it.

It was late night I’m browsing the net and read a blog of a Filipina transwoman who fall in love with a man living in Slovenia and they met in real and fight for their love. And a Filipina transwoman living and loving his Dutch husband. Both are also a lovely story until I realize the book of Mr. Art and Ms. Trixie love story.

At the 3rd time I visit the bookstore with my main purpose to get a copy and buy of this book “He’s Dating the Transgender”. I let myself read the whole book the moment I have it on my hand.

When I started to read it, it talks about the introduction of knowing the personality and past life of their young age. From Mr. Art teenage life to Ms. Trixie transformation process. The book was totally made to understand the root and where they started to fall each other, the struggle and the hopeless moment of finding the right one. It’s fun and very entertaining, I find myself laughing while reading the book. And there are facts at the young age of being transwoman you are fall in love and adore feminine behavior. Loving woman’s activities, act like a woman and also the inner feeling that you are a woman.

There’s also a twisted part of emotion and feelings from a humorous jokes and punch line to emotional dramatic story. My heart burst into sadness when the most important person who love and support you died (Ms. Trixie Aunt) and you loved the most. I got cried realizing how important every special people in our life and all we need are showing our love and to value and care them as long as they live in this world. She’s totally a hero and great woman for being angel to Ms. Trixie. And Ms. Trixie empowered as well herself to keep going and fight for the battle of her life.

The book will drive you in many ways of emotion but only one destination and that is to inspire you. That love has no label, love has no gender, love is love and love is the best thing we can have in this world using our heart while we are living.  And of course it’s not easy to find the real one, the story show as well about the struggle and imperfection of life.

And I adore the purity, gracefulness and being kind of Ms. Trixie. I love how she is being part of charity and being with kids same as me. (I know how it really felt sharing your time and inspire young kids). I love their aim building up a foundation to help unfortunate people when time comes that they can able to make one in the future. She is also a figure of a woman who has beautiful soul and humility.

The book also tell how wonderful the heart of a transwoman when she love someone with all her heart in which is so accurate in real life. Because of many trials we facing through in our life the moment we dedicate our heart to the only one a brave man who accept us, love us and treat us well as the only woman who is love of their life. We often keep our genuine heart with gratitude, love more and show passionate way of caring our man. And that’s how we are so special.

It’s truly witty and knowledgeable book. This is not only for transwoman or trans-orientedman it’s also for straight people to open their mind, learn and be aware about the modern world. We exist and it doesn’t mean that having this kind of relationship is bad or inappropriate because of religious matter that taught us.

For me there is no right or wrong when you fall in love as long as you didn’t hurt anyone. As long as you are happy and respect other people. We are equally having the right to love and use our heart but not to judge and label other people instead letting ourselves to be free and having a broader mind to embrace the kindness for other to be happy and to our selves.

Mr. Art is also a nice brave man (On the last part when the right time comes) but of course sorry Mr. Art you play as well the coward part to hide the identity of Ms. Trixie for your family for almost a years. But the unbelievable thing is how strong and patiently Ms. Trixie to keep her courage even if she was felt uncomfortable and limitless to do and say something about herself to the family of Mr. Art. Love is also taking risk and sacrifice and I seen that Ms. Trixie gets strength because of his faithful love to his man Mr. Art.

But despite of it I guess that’s the challenges to make their love bonds stronger and wiser. I love how Mr. Art changes his life and find the beauty of the world again when he met the princess of his heart Ms. Trixie. Our story is molded in different way; it can be god’s will, our will or choice or unexpectedly happen in good way. The most matter is we made our own story with genuine heart to inspire and choose happiness in our life.

And this true story happened, it is truly deserve to show and tell the world because it’s very inspirational, eye and mind opening tool for each and everyone. Although we cannot please all people to like it, support it, agree or disagree with it but at least RESPECT it.  Because in the end LOVE will always WIN.

I love as well how both of them explore different countries and places. From USA to Asian countries. It’s really amazing feeling to travel with special someone. 

I love to share more but I guess it’s better for you to buy a copy of this book and enjoy it. I’m sending my gratitude and being thankful for the privilege to be one of the readers of this book with all respect I salute and sending my prayer for more blessing and strong love for both of you Ms. Trixie and Mr. Art. Thank you for inspiring many…

I’m excited to make my own book and my own love story when the time and love comes on my way to tell and share the world I will probably no doubt to share mine.

Love

JAZZ-SIMPLYTRAVEL

LAC Outreach Feeding Program, Umbrella, Whistle and Flashlight (SOS Donation) at Liliw Laguna

Today is a lovely day, waking up early in the morning at 6am seeing a wonderful sun rise. I prefer to stay with my sister’s hometown at San Pablo City where you can find the amazing 7 lakes. And it’s quite near to travel my target destination.

Who doesn’t even know about Liliw Laguna? Well known Footwear Capital of the Philippines. Exciting right? But the most exciting part is to see and spend time to another bunch of kids for Outreach Feeding Program and SOS Donation. The program is about to give umbrellas, whistle and flashlights to 100 kids of Liliw Laguna. It’s actually charity project of LAC Community and once again this is my third time around to participate and join this wonderful activity.

From my sister’s hometown it takes me an hour to travel Liliw Laguna to San Pablo City. I need to ride jeepney that will pass through another town called Nagcarlan. While travelling riding in jeepney you will notice how beautiful Nagcarlan is. There’s a lot side by side running water resort and hot spring resort. People living here reflects simple life, the road is quite enjoyable where you reach the mountain view and see lot of running stream surrounded by different sizes of stones. It’s also relaxing seeing green field, farm and lot of trees. I’m already far from urban place.

Now I’m so excited to reach Liliw Laguna and see the kids I brought some few toys and gift for them.

Now I’m off in jeepney, safe and finally reach the place. When you reach the Liliw Laguna you will be pleasantly welcome by tons of long spontaneously different footwear store. It’s very lovely seeing different kind and colorful footwear to offer. You will also amaze with the structure of Liliw Church and how it’s attractive in your eyes made by red bricks.

The atmosphere was absolutely spectacular.

Now it’s time to go where the place of feeding program is.

My fellow volunteer group already has their own way and jeepney service to get in the place. So since I already commute I need to ride one more tricycle to climb the high road reaching Barangay Oples Liliw Laguna where the venue is.

The place was actually not easy to find since I need to pass through zigzag and even ups and down roads. Feel like it’s an obstacle in field but I know it’s really worth for

When I reach the place I had seen tons of kids and their mom sitting and waiting in the venue chosen by our group. My fellow volunteer started to do their own duties; some are preparing to cook for macaroni soup that will give to kids after the game activity to entertain them for a while.

Of course what else to do? I just put down my big fur bag on the table side and started to work and do my duties. And that is to be one of the hosts to entertain kids with my fellow partner Ms. Joms.

Our Founder Jem is too busy doing some stuff and preparing the umbrellas, whistle and flashlights.

The show must go on and all we need to do as a host is to let the kids play, sing along with us, dance and also orient them how important to be prepared in terms of natural disaster.

Educate them too and advice them to be a good human being. Everybody is laughing, giggling and even enjoying participate the games we have. Some of them were truly like the prizes we given from toys to cash reward.

Every time I see myself and experience this moment feels like I was getting back with my childhood and enjoying their innocent attitudes. It’s truly priceless.

These hundred kids are amazing but what truly catch my attention is a 5 year old girl who dream to be an artist. And when the moment she join our mini dance contest all of us was truly astonish by her graceful movement in dancing. She’s adorable and talented, glad I have chances to have a picture with her and I was hoping that she will grow with lovely heart and embracing the art especially in field of music and dancing. Obviously she had a natural blood of being an artist and very gifted.

Every kids has their own individual stories, I had chances to sat down even a minute talking with a  young boy who stop studying because he had a heart problem. My heart really burst into sadness hearing this kind of thing, why sometimes people who wants to live in good way suffer with illnesses in which they are not deserved to.

But the answer that I did to this young boy is “COURAGE” a wisdom word to encourage him. To motivate him and support him morally that life needs to go on especially at his young age.

I can tell you that every time you have chances to be part of charity work you will learn a lot how to value life hearing different stories from other people. And being tools as yourself helping other as a purpose is truly matter, it’s not about what’s in your pocket but your time to spend and your purpose to encourage unfortunate people, kids and old one.

It’s truly pleasurable in your heart and soul to make kids smile and give some help for a while. When the macaroni soups already cook our team started to segregate each cup for children. After an hour of games, it’s time to fill their starving stomach then after time to give them the umbrellas, whistle and flashlights.

While the kids eating we have chances to share vitamins C tablet to some mothers and adults who are in the activity area. And Ms. Joms orient them to love their kids and send her message of being so thankful for having us in this place.

After the kids were done at their meal our Founder Jem give his minutes of advice and word for kids to treasure and value education. He explain as well the proper use of umbrella to protect them in rain, the whistle that can able to use as a good tool to ask attention of help in calamity state and flash light as a source of light if there’s brownout happens in the area.

It’s time for us to assist and keep a good line up for kids to have their sos donation. We make numbering ticket for them from 1 to 100 so we can able to give one by one for each kid the umbrella, whistle and flashlight in a good flow.

Everybody’s wearing their smile, started to blow their whistle because of excitement, open up their umbrella and test there flashes light. And the sweetest part is they actually saying “Thank you” with you, which actually soften you’re heart because of their young age they know how to appreciate the small things you’ve done.

I will never forget this thing happen in my life, that I had chances to meet and hang around this tons of kids of Liliw Laguna. And see the kids enjoying as well our company. I also want to thank LAC Community for having me in their charity work. Learning and making my day productive, appreciating the core value of helping other people.

If you have a wonderful stories and experiences regards charity share with us!

Photo By: JazzrellRio Photography

Love

JAZZ-SIMPLYTRAVEL

HUMIDITEA Milk Tea and Coffee Zone

I remember that the only drink we knew before is only coffee, milk, tea, softdrinks and juices. But in this modern days we have new different kind of foods discover and made. I’m a coffee lover and I love coconut juice too.
   
Now who does not know about Pearl Milk Tea cooler?

Many Filipino love cooler drink or shake especially in summer to pamper their self despite of hot temperature in this tropical country.  Since there’s a lot of talented barista, cook/chef or food and drinks inventors (whatever we call it) the one that made things or experiment about drinks there’s a lot of new drinks to serve.

There’s an ice tea, milk tea, coffee jelly, juices with orange pulp, chocolate drinks, and black pearl drinks etc.

I’m not a big fan of Pearl Milk Tea but to experience new things is a good idea. Humiditea is a Milk tea and coffee zone Shop. Located along Rizal Blvd. highway in my hometown, it is near in well known Filipino fastfood Jolibee in Santa Rosa Laguna.

I was so curios for this Milk Tea and Coffee zone shop I’ve heard in some few friends of mine who actually been there.

It was late evening around 9 and I invited my bestfriend to accompany me and have some cold Milk Tea to dine and experience the place. When we get in the place I have seen its lovely because of creative and colorful ambiance of this Coffee Shop.

Colorful place is truly inviting to our vision because it feels like we are in a lovely garden with full of colorful flowers and butterflies. I love how they set different colorful sofa and chairs mix with colorful pillows. It’s a very pleasant place, you will enjoy to sat down with your friends and having a great chitchat enjoying your meal and drinks. There are a lot of different flavor drinks of milk tea to offer. But I ordered Hokkaido milk tea for myself and chocolate for my bestfriend, we also ordered 2 cups of fried noodles with siomai toppings. They also served hot coffee and hot red tea if you want hot drinks. And they also have taco and siopao to serve if you want as a snack.

The place was actually makes you feel like its home while enjoying your meal. They also have chessboard and snake in ladders game board if you want to use your time have fun to play this game with your friends. They also have nice paintings hanging, colorful walls and even the creative colorful crystal gems that covered the light as a design. A bulletin board where you can put your comments or anything you want to post/say regards your experiences in the shop. There’s also a photo stand in the corner where you can put your photos with your selfie and drinks or group pictures.

I find the concept of the place is Artful so anyone can really enjoy the colorful ambiance plus they will feel it’s like home. According to one of the staff it was started last December year 2015 and owned by Ms. Rowena Asido. It’s lovely and you don’t need to worry because its air conditioned so you will feel more relax and comfortable even if it’s hot outside. It was really fun to be in here having a great time reading some few page of my book I brought while enjoying our meal, the fried noodles was fairly okie but the Pearl Milk tea as their main drinks is awesome.

If you have chances to drop in Santa Rosa City I recommend you to dine and experience HUMIDITEA Shop. Enjoy and don’t forget to share your story. 

Love
JAZZ-SIMPLYTRAVEL